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Now It Is Stated Regarding Service Animals.

January 19, 2015

Martin Luther King day!

Many people living with hidden disabilities are being discriminated against daily.

“Hiddendisabilities” last post on was a reaction to the first “Dog Walking Area” I shared how all my rights are being denied under Fair Housing. The second message arrived on my door January 15, 2015.  ANIMALS This is not okay under any fair housing where disabled people live. The other concern is under HUD can pets be taken away from seniors?



Chloe’s World

June 30, 2013

Hard at work.

Today is our 3rd day on our road trip. We met Art at Calloway and then off to Europa , Ponte, Miramonte and then end at south coast. Chloe and I took off is to the Ramada in Old Town Temecula, ca. We went back to our new fav mex food.  It is good to return to my little heaven on earth. Woof!



Yesterday woke up started walking and I had this weird sensation in the front of my left thigh it felt as though my leg was going to give out. I then went to help my senior friend and stepped on my left foot and boom the spasm hit in the left lower spine. I took pain medications and they didn’t work so I went to muscle relaxers and my pain subsided enough to get some relief. I have had this repeating for the last yr and becoming more prevalent.


 This morning Chloe and I had to go out to take care of matters that had to be done. My pain became so bad that Chloe lied down on the ground and didn’t want to move. How did she know? I am upset as I wanted to work out hang with friends and I am not able to. 

 I can look at the glass half full and not half empty, so with that said I will chose the glass have full. I can watch great movies, through a ball for Chloe and hang out with her, type on the internet and surrender to what is. Most of all I can remember that God is with me.

I am amazed at the awareness at how dogs can sense and know what is happening. After having Hayliegh as my service dog and learning to identify certain behaviors matching the onset of what is happening to my body. Today Chloe knew my body was in extreme pain and she lied down and didn’t want me to move.  She is happy that I am home.



The Hayliegh Project

April 28, 2013


“The Hayliegh Project” stepped into to help

Cocoa looks like a little toy schnauzer and Mickey is the owner/mother.  Little Cocoa is not only a companion to Mickey she is also a service dog assisting Mickey by hearing when someone is at the door and when the phone rings due to Mickey’s deafness.   It came to our attention when I took Mickey to get both of our service dogs groomed at Petco that Cocoa’s ear was inflamed. At Petco, Michelle is my favorite groomer, as she is always gentle and considerate about my disability with the dropping off and picking up my service dog. Michelle brought to our attention to the fact that Cocoa’s right ear was inflamed and showed us what she extracted from Cocoa’s ear.  She speculated that Cocoa’s ear might be infected and that got me thinking.

As another week came to an end, I was concerned about Mickey and her service dog.  Cocoa had started showing signs that something was wrong. Cocoa started shaking her head and the right ear still looked hot pink and swollen, plus Cocoa stopped eating. Mickey had been stressed for the entire week about the cost that could be incurred due to veterinarian bill.

I inquired about PAWS San Diego as Mickey had informed me that she had been receiving food donated from them. PAWS also helps people on “low income” assisting people with their canine companions monetarily for medical treatment. At this point,  Mickey agreed that The Hayliegh Project could step in to represent her case.

The Hayliegh Project helped Mickey contact PAWS.  PAWS stepped in by helping her get the care she needed to treat Cocoa.  I contacted Randy at PAWS. Randy at PAWS San Diego got the ball rolling and Jeff from Paw’s took our information, which I faxed in.  What is important to mention is that Mickey had been signed up with Paw’s for about a year. It is important to mention that anyone asking for the help of a nonprofit organization should be aware that there are rules that have to be done both to protect the organization and the person being helped.   Otherwise there may have been a 90 day waiting period. “At this time, PAWS is not accepting any new clients due to funding limitations.”


Miracles happen every day and a miracle happened today.

Thanks to Paw’s sponsorship and their monetary support, and Dr. Benavides, DVM and the wonderful staff at El Cajon Valley Veterinarian Hospital, who provided all the medical needs while being aware of my clients economic concerns due to Paw’s support.   The Hayliegh Project (Hayliegh and I) assisted in making all the contacts and drove little Cocoa and Mickey to the veterinarian.

Cocoa had stopped eating as the ear infection was affecting her appetite and now she will be treated with an antibiotic ointment and should be up and running around soon.


  • El Cajon Valley Veterinary Hospital and on facebook  El Cajon Valley Veterinary Hospital, San Diego, ca.
  • Paw’s San Diego  and on facebook Paw’s San Diego.
  • To be specific: PAWS San Diego’s mission is to preserve the human-animal bond by providing pet services and support to low-income seniors, chronically ill and disabled people. We offer two programs: Our legacy PetCare and VetCare program offers in-home delivery of pet food and cat litter to our clients and limited vouchers for vet care when resources are available. Our secondary PAWS Pantry program offers supplemental bags of dog and cat food to human service groups and others around San Diego County. Our secondary program is able to reach thousands of pet families and help keep pets out of shelters.


Hayliegh’s World

November 30, 2012
love in the first degree!

love in the first degree!

Canine Kisses?    

     Those soulful brown eyes of Hayliegh’s run deep with an all knowing spirit. While the coffee is brewing, I go and give her kisses while we greet the day saying “A happy girl makes a happy day,” “Good morning God,” “You’re the prettiest girl in town” and “Good morning, sunshine girl.”  We go out for a few minutes then back in and have time to sit in the living room. She sits in either on her dogie blanket or the beautiful tapestry wing chair while I do my bible study and spiritual mantras. If I don’t stick with the plan and get caught in the bedroom, she will do this little bark/grumble and come to get me.  She wants me back in the living room.

Hayliegh and I have our own dogie talk. It is really cute. I say in a twangy voice as I am looking at her, “Hayliegh is my partner in crime” and then my dear friend Jori finishes the saying “And you guys are criminals” as we roll the last word out slow with an off voice. I say to Hayliegh “You are the cutest girl in town” rolling out the last word. She will bark and give me a very low woof.  Then we look at each other and I try to predict what she is going to do next, from a low bark to a grumble, as we go back and forth for a while. Hayliegh has our plan all figured out.

Hayliegh and I have our own sign language one is “I see you and you see me.”  I point two fingers at her and then two fingers back at me. I have also taught her good heart by touching my chest and hers with flat hand, she knows “smart girl” as I indicate a flat hand on top of my head or hers. The most special one she has learned is “I love you because you love me.”  The “I love you” is one finger pointed out at her and then two fingers back to me finishes the “you love me.”  I have taught her both by sight voice and touch in case any one of her senses goes out.

We have some games we like to play and one of them is that I say I am going to get her and she will run as fast as she can past me. I have to try and pat her bum; if I can I win, if I can’t she wins.  You know you can actually see her smile. I love to see her run as fast as she can down the hallway, her ears flopping and a smile on her face because she knows it is treat time. Another game is she will start to talk to me by grumbling a small low bark and I try to mimic her sounds, and then I try to do what she is going to at the same time. While we do this she is looking straight at me and I have taught her by touch in case one of her senses goes out.

    They say our dog takes after us and I always thought I learned from her.  She is a filled with all the love in the world, but she isn’t a pansy. What I mean by this is that she will stand up for herself and defend herself.  She doesn’t allow herself to be mistreated by any other dog.  Something I have learned from her about dealing with people.                       

Our bond is priceless as she has graced my life. We can look into each other’s eyes and see how much love and understanding we have for each other. I believe when she licks my skin or kisses my face she is able to detect what is happening to me. I know that when I have taken needed medications, she has been known to lick my skin and knows it has been absorbed into my system. It is clear to me that she then stops worrying about me. I love watching everything about her: the way she trots, how her little tail wags fast and her bum follows when she is happy, how she taps my thigh with her paw, then looks at me as if to say “I want a treat now!”

We have some set routines.   Every night she asks for her dessert, which I call “Wessert.” She will start grumbling in a low whinny cry, looking at me and telling me she wants more treats. At times she rest her head on the couch and then looks up at me with those adorable brown eyes, and it works every time,  She gets more wessert. We have another thing we say, and that is “Do you want something!” in this odd tone and she get excited and woofs “yes.”


I have spent the last year and half that I have had with telling her at night after she has crawled up on my chest. While she is kissing me I would share with her our whole life story from day one to the present. She would soak it up and I would did too.


The Hayliegh Project

October 15, 2012

What does a service dog look like?

Hayliegh and I went out on a date this last Friday to a local and popular restaurant in San Diego / La Mesa. My date and I sat down in the bar area he then left to the mensroom.  The couple next to me inquired about Hayliegh (service dog) and I picked her up standing in the isle.  In a split second the manager came over and with hostility said we have complaints that your dog is in your arms. Now before I go any further let me play this out becuase it wasn’t about her in my arms it was about me not looking disabled, what I call “hidden disabilities” = discrimination.

* He said he had 4 complaints I hadn’t even been there 3 minutes and she was on the floor for those 2 minute and 53 seconds.

* I had her in my arms 7 long seconds at most.

* The manager addresses me with an antagonistic manner basically abusive saying a person w/ a service dog had to be physically disabled.

* I don’t look disabled as I have hidden disabilities. (I didn’t share this out loud it is for the to reader know)  I am a size 4 wearing Victoria Secret cloths, I eat healthy and workout every split second I get.

* I shared with him that I am physically disabled this went for three rounds. Then my date returns and with his strong voice says “What is the problem here?’  The manager says she has to be physically disabled and I looked at him and said “I am physically disabled.”

The couple next to us went to leave and kept apologizing to me as they were up set that I had been treated so horribly.

I managed to work through the discomfort and my date was more then helpful to get me through the ordeal.

Today is Sunday and I called the restaurant to ask for the corporate number as I was going to report this to the head office. Well it turned out that a supervisor was on the phone and took my compliant. She was apologetic and offered a meal for me and my date to make up for the rudeness that we endured.

Again another issue of abuse to those of us who DON’T LOOK DISABLED!

Haylieghs World “The Hayliegh Project”

May 31, 2012

Hayliegh and I had another great day in sunny San Diego.  While we were out we met another person who is struggling w/ hidden disabilities or invisible disabilities. We haven’t counted how many people “The Hayliegh Project” has helped over this last year.  We have helped many people in the area’s of housing, legal help whether it is for social security, fighting an over pay mistake by social security office by filing appeals. We have helped people who could no longer work due to disability by having their school loans written off.   We have been available for support when someone needs to talk about how thier life has changed.  We also help educate people w/ information about how to obtain a service dog and understanding the laws. We also help people when their civil rights when they have been denied.

Today was a great example: We ran into a man w/his service dog he asked us about the service dog vest  and it turned out minutes later he needed help w/ how to obtain his Social Securty because he had been denied and cannot work. we refereed him to a social security attorney.  We also were able to get him medical resources to aid in his medical care and maybe housing.

We just took part in an audio interview for the LDN research trust where we share how LDN is working both for me and my serivce dog w/ our health.  We have been asked to write an article for their news letter.

Goals: to start a group for those suffering w/ hidden disabilities and invisable disabilities and have an official site.

I have to say that my heart is filled w/joy knowing that the mission to help others is really happening.

Hayliegh sends a woof as she works hard being my little supervisor.

Hayliegh’s World

February 19, 2012

“I’m tired of doing the time for someone else’s crime”

 Denied My “Civil Rights” under the ADA

Two reasons why I am not able to find legal help is:

I don’t look disabled: again having hidden disabilities / invisible disabilities comes to haunt me again 1. Because I don’t look disabled  &  2. The fact that I have gone after a company for denying me my “civil rights” under the ADA years past. It isn’t fair I did not commit a crime. I am tired and angry that this is happening and I still have no rights.

It is a sin that people w/ invisible disabilities / hidden disabilities cannot find legal help because we don’t look disabled enough for a trial thus a jury. Isn’t that discrimination too? The case isn’t whether I am disable the case would be that “I was denied my civil rights under the ADA and UNRUH Act to have my service dog. I live in disabled housing because I am disabled w/ multiple disabling health issues such as, Fibromyalgia, CFID’s/ME, IBS, and the list goes on. This January I will have a total of seven doctor appointments just this month most people don’t go except once or twice a year.

I am asked by attorney’s am I in a “wheelchair” and when I say no that about ends it because again “I DON”T LOOK DISABLED.”  This also raises the question that wheelchair people are more believable then me and then I am discriminated against again.

Is it fair that I get denied the legal help that I deserve by law. Check: California civil code 52 and ADA and Unruh civil rights act 54 and 55.2

What price have you put on your “CIVIL RIGHTS!”

On January, 7, 2012

My friend and I walked into a restaurant (Old Venice) and seated ourselves at the bar on the stools.  I shared w/ the bartender that I had service dog w/ me and showed him my dogs vest because the buckle had broken. The bartender then left and returned to  the patron side of the to talk to us. He then said we have to leave because of my service dog. He also shared that the owners did not allow service dogs in their restaurant.

I then repeated to the bartender “oh you don’t understand this is my service dog and legally we are allowed by law to be here.” I shared that we had been h before. He got frustrated and a bit heated, and was a matter of fact about the rules and service dogs. He said he had spoken to the owners and service dogs were not allowed in the restaurant. The bartender informed us that a customer came in w/ a little dog claiming it was her service dog and she was asked to leave. .

I asked the bartend his name “Justin” and the time 6:05pm We left and went to my friend’s apartment to call the police. Officer Stadler #3980 and Lopez showed up took the info and went to the restaurant to share w/ Justin abut service dogs then returned to my friend’s apartment and shared that Justin the bartender did say “the owners don’t allow service dogs.

It has been a hard couple of days and I am hoping to be coming out of the insanity I was feeling about the discrimination and my service dog. I am bummed out. I have felt sick and depressed about this.

I now fear being rejected by other attorneys because I don’t look disabled.

* The ADA laws

* Hayliegh’s tags and licensing copied.

* I have a witness

* There was an police officer involved and witnessed the violation  

   under ADA laws. 

Witnesses statement

To whom it may concern:

This is my statement of the event that took place at 6:05 p.m. on Saturday, January 7th, 2012.

Kimberly Ryan Harms, her service dog Hailey and myself Deanne Coleman – A restaurant in San Diego.

We walked into the restaurant and seated ourselves at the bar on the stools.  Kimberly also motioned to and mentioned her service dog and showed the man the vest upon walking into the building.  The bartender then left for a few minutes towards the back.  When the bar tender returned he walked over to where we were seated and proceeded to state strongly that we would have to leave since service dogs were not allowed in the establishment per management / owner requirements.

Kimberly then said oh you don’t understand this is my service dog and legally we are allowed by law to be served here.  She said we have been served here before as well.  She pulled the vest out again to show the bartender.  He then more aggressively stated that no, it does not matter we are not allowed to be served here with the service dog.

He said he had just called the owners on the phone who again had told him dogs were not allowed in the restaurant even if it’s a service dog.  The bar tender said last week they had someone else in here with a dog and they were requested to leave as well.  He said it’s not himself telling her no, but the owners rules and request.

Kimberly then asked him what time it was and asked for his name.  He said it’s 6:05 p.m. and my name is Justin.  We then left and went back to her friend’s home to call the Police.  The policeman came out to the home and took Kimberly’s statement and stated also that is discrimination for customers with service dogs to not be allowed in or be served at a restaurant.

  • San Diego police officer Stadler and Lopez involved. The bartender told the police officer that I was not allowed w/ my service dog due to owners policy.

I called the restaurant to make a complaint on January 20, 2012 @ 5:35pm and spoke to manager Forrest to talk about my discomfort and being upset about what happened about the night in question. He kind of wanted to brush me off and then said the owners would call me and they never did.

Hayliegh’s World

April 4, 2011

It is sunday and we are up Hayliegh has had her pain medications, going to make breakfast and then off to help my dear Marie.  Hayliegh and I shared a sweet potatoe along w/ her special dry food and NO! I did not have her dry food. Although, one of her doggie biscuits are cinnamon flavored and actually taste great.

This is the second time while shopping w/ Hayliegh were I put her in the grocery cart.  Every costumer either giggled or commented on her puppyhood?  I have to share that she is 11 1/2 yrs old because she just doesn’t look her age.  While we were in line waiting to check out Catherine a patron inquired about Hayliegh.  She then shared w/ me that her maybe soon to be new dog from the shelter could be a service dog for her daughter.  I gave her our card “The Hayliegh Project” advocating for people w/ hidden disabilities.  I asked her to call me and I could help get her started.

Then the woman in front of us while at check out commented about Hayliegh and then wanted to share her wonderful stories of her beloved black cocker spaniel and the cute things her cocker did while they had her.  People have so many great memories about their pets and it is so fun to hear their heartfelt stories.  Then the box boy said can we pet her and I said “absolutely yes”, and he jumped right in and gave her some affection.  And Lyle the checker was so sweet and commented on how pretty Hayliegh looks and could hardly believe that she is 11 1/2 yrs as he thought she was so puppy like.

Woof U,


Someone Crossed the Line!

August 29, 2010

Imagine yourself standing in line at a bank your exhausted you feel the Chronic Fatigue starting to hit and, yet you know you have to take care of life before you can shut down.

It is taking everything you have just to stand and then imagine someone starts  saying “why do you have the dog” while they are standing behind you!  Then the tapping starts on your shoulder and it feels like a hammer coming down on your muscles.  The woman is repeating herself “why do you have the dog”!  What would you do?

I turned and said “What are you doing to me?  I am not well and you are hurting my shoulder”!  The lady then says harshly “you didn’t answer me”!  What gave this woman this self entitlement attitude? As if, she had the right because she had the thought!  What if I had been deaf? I could what if this to the hills and back!

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