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The Secret Life of Hidden Disabilities

March 5, 2017

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My book gives a voice to those of us who are living with hidden disabilities, and the discrimination we face whether with, or without the use of a service dog. It seems to have been an unspoken subject. Have you ever gotten out of your car because you parked in a handicap space and you don’t look disabled? Maybe even chased down while someone is yelling at you because they assume you are abusing the handicap space? Have you ever gone to ER to find an ER nurse is hunting you down because you don’t look disabled enough to have a service dog by your side? Some places ask for papers regarding the service dog, and my city doesn’t issue papers. Have you ever gone out to a restaurant only to be harassed by the people sitting near because you don’t look disabled enough to have a service dog. Maybe denied service because they don’t think you are disabled enough to have a service dog. Have patrons ever chased you down in a store because they would like know why you have the dog? Only to be told, “You are not disabled.” This book may open your eyes and hearts for those living with hidden disabilities. My hope is to educate those people around us; so that people living with hidden disabilities don’t have to endure discrimination and can live in peace among-st a sometimes tough world.

By Kimberly Harms Ryan

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San Diego State Disable Student Services

March 19, 2016

 

I had to go to SDSU today for my taxes. I am sick and detoxing from my health and surgery. Talk about double duty and not feeling well. Everyone helping with my taxes at the Love Library was super compassionate towards me not feeling well and having to assist me with help.

 

I found a great parking spot off Hardy ave. then had to walk through the center of SDSU to the Love Library for my taxes. As I am trying to fill out papers my mind is struggling to focus as I was shaking. I manage to hold myself up barely. Before I go, I inquired about help getting to my car because the stabbing pain in my stomach was more than I could bare.

 

I call the campus security they don’t help people to cars unless night time. I inquire about other options as I am disabled and they gave me the number to Disabled Services. I call and got a very unkind woman / receptionist I presume.

 

I said I am disabled person on campus and need a ride to my car because I am struggling with my health. She says, “We don’t drive people to their cars” I said, “I just need to get close enough to get to my car.” She then hits me with, “How did you get their!?” I am thinking “Really, who talks to a disabled person like this?” A few long minutes go by and see a van go by. I  called back thought they missed me. Called again as I could hardly stand or sit, so then the Disabled Service receptionist scolded me on the phone for calling back.

 

The two men who picked me up in a cart where kind and got me to the very edge of campus grounds and I could see me car….

 

San Diego State Disabled Services will be getting a call on Monday from The Hayliegh Project regarding the hostile treatment towards me as a disabled person. Thoughts what about the other disabled people who call and need help. What about compassion and empathy for people who are disabled?

 

People’s behavior are not a reflection me it is a reflection of themselves. Problem the reflection wounded a hurt woman today and that was me. .

 

I don’t need to hear, “She may have had a bad day” I had a horrific day and didn’t miss treat anyone for my health issues.

Chloe’s World

September 26, 2014

Chloe had a great day full of love and smiles. She had a play date with her boyfriend. Then we took our friend Lynn to Walmart.
Chloe is a mascot to many places and today it was Walmart. Chloe saw her favorite Walmart employee Dave. He always makes Chloe feel so special and is full of kindness.

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Chloe saw some pumpkins and asked if she could have a picture with them, and her mom (me) said yes!

Hidden Disabilities

September 22, 2014

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Looking at the glass half full. I got my Pilates workout in and the cool thing about my machine is it has a trampoline I can change out from the Pilates bar. No stress on bladder. You Lie down and jump “It is really cool!” It is a really great workout and none evasive to the joints.

I chose the trampoline because I tried to take a walk today with Chloe, and she wouldn’t let me go. My l-5 and SI disc is starting to hurt and walking was painful. Chloe knew!

If we don’t use it we lose it. As a person living with multiple health conditions it is absolutely important to keep the body and spine as strong as I can. Working out releases endorphin’s, and endorphin’s feel good.

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WOOF!

Chloe’s World

September 20, 2014

We can see the light at the end of the tunnel. The antibiotics have kicked in and it feels great. Chloe and I helped a dear friend get to her doctor appointment and CVS. Chloe and I waited at the Vons next store. They have a clean patio area to wait and watch people come and go.

While waiting we met Courtney who works for Vons. Courtney was so kind she offered Chloe H2O while we were waiting for our friend to finish up at CVS. ChloeDSCF6323DSCF6322 also had lots to say today in her doggie language.

FYI: We did find out that Vons and Albertsons have been bought out and are merging. As they say more shall be revealed.

Hidden Disabilities

September 9, 2014

Chronic Fatigue Immune Disease (CFID). It causes me horrible bouts of debilitating exhaustion; it is insanity at its best. I have different cycles some cause my lungs to feel like a deflated leather football, my vocal cords strain to talk and I am unable to sit up hardly. Sometimes my body aches like the worst flue hit me or like someone took a baseball bat and beat up every muscle in my body. Then there are times where I don’t have any pain and my body is just worn out like a rag doll who sits in a corner.
My temperature can drop down to 97 degrees. My appetite usually stops and when it hits for days I crave my air popped popcorn (my comfort food). I have had people ask me how I stay in shape if I am house bound. I have a chronic fatigue plan that I stick with.
My comprehension can be effected making it difficult to read or obtain any information that is important. I keep things organized because I can forget if I put something in the wrong place.
What is a service dog suppose to do?
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Chloe’s World

August 21, 2014

I just got in from my 2nd epidural and BOY talk about a nerve getting hit! I nearly passed out. My head rushed and I felt like vomiting too! The doc did a good job at trying to change the subject. Then I had to have me lie down, I couldn’t walk for a while my legs went numb. I am home and have weird sensations throughout my body.

Chloe laid on a towel and went to get up a few times and went back to lie down. When the doc hit the nerve she knew. Then when I couldn’t get up the nurse commented on Chloe’s concern for me. I finally greeted her then had to sit for a while because I couldn’t walk.
Chloe is passed out I think it took just as much out of her as it did me!

On a great note before the epidurals made it to Vons and Chloe had to have a pic with her buddy “Jordan” the lovely meat counter young lady! We received flowers from a woman that we help. WOOF!

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Chloe’s World

August 19, 2014

I saw this sign posted at the base of Cowl’s mountain warning people taking their dogs  up during excessive heat. Last month has been horrific heat in San Diego. I saw this man carrying his BIG dog down the mountain as the dog had nothing left in him. I don’t know if the mans dog lived?  

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Chloe’s World

August 10, 2014

Okay so I have been working hard on my project on my laptop which is on my lap. Chloe puppy dog wanting attention in-between my mission. She doesn’t know she is on this mission too. Here she is trying to present a toy over the top of my laptop. WOOF!

Chloe is trying to make me take breaks.!

Chloe is trying to make me take breaks.!

Staying Present

July 10, 2014

How do you feel when you have reached so deep inside that the anointing of God has set you free to live in the present and leave you happy for the future?
Daily: “I surrender to the Christ within and I go free” from the book of Florence Scovel Shinn. Anything that is bothering you or holding you hostage due to indecision, frustration and unsettled anxiety it is as simple as giving it to God and meditating “I surrender to the Christ within and I go free.”
May you have many blessed moments.

Chloe says WOOF!


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