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The Secret Life of Hidden Disabilities

July 4, 2017

The Secret Life of Hidden Disabilities

March 5, 2017

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My book gives a voice to those of us who are living with hidden disabilities, and the discrimination we face whether with, or without the use of a service dog. It seems to have been an unspoken subject. Have you ever gotten out of your car because you parked in a handicap space and you don’t look disabled? Maybe even chased down while someone is yelling at you because they assume you are abusing the handicap space? Have you ever gone to ER to find an ER nurse is hunting you down because you don’t look disabled enough to have a service dog by your side? Some places ask for papers regarding the service dog, and my city doesn’t issue papers. Have you ever gone out to a restaurant only to be harassed by the people sitting near because you don’t look disabled enough to have a service dog. Maybe denied service because they don’t think you are disabled enough to have a service dog. Have patrons ever chased you down in a store because they would like know why you have the dog? Only to be told, “You are not disabled.” This book may open your eyes and hearts for those living with hidden disabilities. My hope is to educate those people around us; so that people living with hidden disabilities don’t have to endure discrimination and can live in peace among-st a sometimes tough world.

By Kimberly Harms Ryan

Woof!

Handicap Parking Spaces

June 14, 2016

How come so many people are violating tenant parking spaces and Handicap Parking spaces in HUD buildings?

 

Tonight I witnessed a car receive a parking ticket because the car was parked in a Handicap space illegally. I decided to sit, watch, and wait. I was intrigued to see what the person would do when they arrived to their ticketed car. Well, I see a lady with her family walking to her car she buckles up her kids, and away she goes….I literally followed her by chance because it just so happened she was traveling in my direction.

 

What is the fine for parking illegally in a Handicap space in San Diego California and what is the fine when you drive off and may loose a ticket you don’t see on your window?

 

San Diego State Disable Student Services

March 19, 2016

 

I had to go to SDSU today for my taxes. I am sick and detoxing from my health and surgery. Talk about double duty and not feeling well. Everyone helping with my taxes at the Love Library was super compassionate towards me not feeling well and having to assist me with help.

 

I found a great parking spot off Hardy ave. then had to walk through the center of SDSU to the Love Library for my taxes. As I am trying to fill out papers my mind is struggling to focus as I was shaking. I manage to hold myself up barely. Before I go, I inquired about help getting to my car because the stabbing pain in my stomach was more than I could bare.

 

I call the campus security they don’t help people to cars unless night time. I inquire about other options as I am disabled and they gave me the number to Disabled Services. I call and got a very unkind woman / receptionist I presume.

 

I said I am disabled person on campus and need a ride to my car because I am struggling with my health. She says, “We don’t drive people to their cars” I said, “I just need to get close enough to get to my car.” She then hits me with, “How did you get their!?” I am thinking “Really, who talks to a disabled person like this?” A few long minutes go by and see a van go by. I  called back thought they missed me. Called again as I could hardly stand or sit, so then the Disabled Service receptionist scolded me on the phone for calling back.

 

The two men who picked me up in a cart where kind and got me to the very edge of campus grounds and I could see me car….

 

San Diego State Disabled Services will be getting a call on Monday from The Hayliegh Project regarding the hostile treatment towards me as a disabled person. Thoughts what about the other disabled people who call and need help. What about compassion and empathy for people who are disabled?

 

People’s behavior are not a reflection me it is a reflection of themselves. Problem the reflection wounded a hurt woman today and that was me. .

 

I don’t need to hear, “She may have had a bad day” I had a horrific day and didn’t miss treat anyone for my health issues.

Hidden Disabilities gets it again!

November 17, 2015

How disabled do I have to look to be disabled with the use of a service dog? What happened to me was horrific today. Leaving Costco in La Mesa, my service dog and I were heading to the car. Out of nowhere, I hear this man yelling at me from his car that dogs aren’t allowed in stores. I just ignored him and went on my way then he starts his car and keeps yelling at me and I ignore him again. I get to my car to unload my things and this man pulls his car up next to me and keeps yelling at me about dogs not being in a store. I started yelling, “Help and call 911 please this man is harassing me because I have a service dog!” Two nice men, employees working for Costco started coming over to me. They were stunned themselves. I grabbed my phone as it was in the car and signing in to take pic and call 911 then the man drove off.

 

This is what is called emotional harassed and a violation to my space. Now I am in pain and a bit headachy from the adrenaline that is flowing through my body. It confirms why I need to publish my book on hidden disabilities and discrimination.

Chloe’s World

August 19, 2014

I saw this sign posted at the base of Cowl’s mountain warning people taking their dogs  up during excessive heat. Last month has been horrific heat in San Diego. I saw this man carrying his BIG dog down the mountain as the dog had nothing left in him. I don’t know if the mans dog lived?  

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Staying Present

July 10, 2014

How do you feel when you have reached so deep inside that the anointing of God has set you free to live in the present and leave you happy for the future?
Daily: “I surrender to the Christ within and I go free” from the book of Florence Scovel Shinn. Anything that is bothering you or holding you hostage due to indecision, frustration and unsettled anxiety it is as simple as giving it to God and meditating “I surrender to the Christ within and I go free.”
May you have many blessed moments.

Chloe says WOOF!

The Hayliegh Project

December 5, 2012

Here is the article I was asked to write about the benefits of both me and my service dogs use of LDN. I still have to live w/ this horrific disease and lately it has attacked my stomach as if my appendix’s has ruptured.

About my service dog she has gained full use of her back leg that was once atrophied and not of any use.  She is surviving cancer w/ no suffering. Hayliegh still keeps working for me as she wouldn’t want to be anywhere else, but w/ me.

I have purchased a Burley tail wagon for her this way we can stay together where ever go.

Every day I ask God to show me what I can do to give back to the world while living w/ this disease and while being home.  I also share what Hayliegh and I do while we are home.

http://www.ldnresearchtrustfiles.co.uk/docs/July%20Newsletter.pdf

 

We are on page 7 & 8

I love you Hayliegh Muffins!

I love you Hayliegh Muffins!

Hayliegh’s World

November 25, 2012

Relationships

Hayliegh knows the difference between the different levels of relationship that we have.  There are various relationships when we are in the “out shopping mode.” She knows to remain by my side until given permission to greet people. When we run into casual friends, she knows she can say hello after I’ve greeted them. On the days I am not well, she will greet them and then come right back to me.

You might be asking when you see me, “Why does she need a dog?”  I am rolling into a very fit fifty, I have honey blond hair, I eat well and stay as fit as I can.  Not an easy task considering this disease is 24/7. I value the benefits of working out as I have been working out since I was thirteen years of age.  It has an important part of my way of life.

We also have our “gym mode.”   Even though she is working for me, I allow her to say hi to everyone, as they are considered regular friends that we see all the time. Saying hello is part of her treats, so I let her enjoy herself while we’re there. She always makes me her priority, despite her outgoing personality.  One day at the gym a friend said “Do you notice how she isn’t as friendly when the Fibromyalgia is flaring in your back?” I realized that was true. I also discovered that her behavior reverts to her usual friendly demeanor once my medications kick in.  Another time, she refused to be social with any of our close friends at the gym. She stood near my side looking forward in a worried manner. Jennifer, a staff member ask “Kim are you feeling okay?” I told her I felt fine. She said “Either you need to go home or we’re going to have an earthquake, because I’ve never seen Hayliegh act like this.” I decided to listen to Hayliegh’s intuition and drive home. She couldn’t have walked any faster to get me to the car.  She wouldn’t even take her treats that she likes before we got going. Well when I got home within forty minutes, I was doubled over with acute stomach pain and could not walk.     

When we visit the doctor we are in “doctor mode.”  She likes to greet the nurses, staff and the doctors; they all enjoy her and it puts a smile on all their faces. I think it helps her feel safe when they work on me. My doctors are amazed, when she reacts to them working on me. For instance, when they give me a shot, she will get up and have to watch over me.

When I have a CAT scan or any other test where she can’t see my face, she starts to whimper or make a low cry. If I end up in an ambulance the medical techs ask “Can she come with us?” and I say “Yes” and then the medical tech will say “yes too.” We had a cute moment when an ambulance came to pick me up. One tech thought she was so cute, he asked if he could take a photo of her in the ambulance; I couldn’t help but say yes. You should see when I am admitted to the ER facility. By the time I get to the area that is curtained off, the word has spread through the whole ER floor that the cutest service dog was there with me. It is funny how one person after another cruised by to say hi to Hayliegh. Can you imagine?  I am at the hospital, the techs are hooking me up with needles and wires, and Hayliegh is on the floor and she is getting really upset as she cannot see my face. The nurses usually put her on the bed with me so she can calm down.

One time the doctor thought I had a ruptured appendicitis.  My thoughts raced; what do I do? I have Hayliegh it is now past her dinner time, she wouldn’t have any of her food, and who would take her out? Suddenly the Chaplain shows up; she had to come and see the cute dog hanging out in the ER room.  Back to the food and potty breaks.  The Chaplin offered to take Hayliegh out as she would be on duty all night for patients.  One of the nurses asks if they could bring Hayliegh something form the kitchen? I said “Oh she would be so happy,” so they brought her a bowl of rice with meatloaf since it was on the menu. The nurses and the kitchen agreed if I had to stay the night they would put rice and chicken in the refrigerator they keep on the floor. Wasn’t that nice?

Hayliegh’s World

February 19, 2012

“I’m tired of doing the time for someone else’s crime”

 Denied My “Civil Rights” under the ADA

Two reasons why I am not able to find legal help is:

I don’t look disabled: again having hidden disabilities / invisible disabilities comes to haunt me again 1. Because I don’t look disabled  &  2. The fact that I have gone after a company for denying me my “civil rights” under the ADA years past. It isn’t fair I did not commit a crime. I am tired and angry that this is happening and I still have no rights.

It is a sin that people w/ invisible disabilities / hidden disabilities cannot find legal help because we don’t look disabled enough for a trial thus a jury. Isn’t that discrimination too? The case isn’t whether I am disable the case would be that “I was denied my civil rights under the ADA and UNRUH Act to have my service dog. I live in disabled housing because I am disabled w/ multiple disabling health issues such as, Fibromyalgia, CFID’s/ME, IBS, and the list goes on. This January I will have a total of seven doctor appointments just this month most people don’t go except once or twice a year.

I am asked by attorney’s am I in a “wheelchair” and when I say no that about ends it because again “I DON”T LOOK DISABLED.”  This also raises the question that wheelchair people are more believable then me and then I am discriminated against again.

Is it fair that I get denied the legal help that I deserve by law. Check: California civil code 52 and ADA and Unruh civil rights act 54 and 55.2

What price have you put on your “CIVIL RIGHTS!”

On January, 7, 2012

My friend and I walked into a restaurant (Old Venice) and seated ourselves at the bar on the stools.  I shared w/ the bartender that I had service dog w/ me and showed him my dogs vest because the buckle had broken. The bartender then left and returned to  the patron side of the to talk to us. He then said we have to leave because of my service dog. He also shared that the owners did not allow service dogs in their restaurant.

I then repeated to the bartender “oh you don’t understand this is my service dog and legally we are allowed by law to be here.” I shared that we had been h before. He got frustrated and a bit heated, and was a matter of fact about the rules and service dogs. He said he had spoken to the owners and service dogs were not allowed in the restaurant. The bartender informed us that a customer came in w/ a little dog claiming it was her service dog and she was asked to leave. .

I asked the bartend his name “Justin” and the time 6:05pm We left and went to my friend’s apartment to call the police. Officer Stadler #3980 and Lopez showed up took the info and went to the restaurant to share w/ Justin abut service dogs then returned to my friend’s apartment and shared that Justin the bartender did say “the owners don’t allow service dogs.

It has been a hard couple of days and I am hoping to be coming out of the insanity I was feeling about the discrimination and my service dog. I am bummed out. I have felt sick and depressed about this.

I now fear being rejected by other attorneys because I don’t look disabled.

* The ADA laws

* Hayliegh’s tags and licensing copied.

* I have a witness

* There was an police officer involved and witnessed the violation  

   under ADA laws. 

Witnesses statement

To whom it may concern:

This is my statement of the event that took place at 6:05 p.m. on Saturday, January 7th, 2012.

Kimberly Ryan Harms, her service dog Hailey and myself Deanne Coleman – A restaurant in San Diego.

We walked into the restaurant and seated ourselves at the bar on the stools.  Kimberly also motioned to and mentioned her service dog and showed the man the vest upon walking into the building.  The bartender then left for a few minutes towards the back.  When the bar tender returned he walked over to where we were seated and proceeded to state strongly that we would have to leave since service dogs were not allowed in the establishment per management / owner requirements.

Kimberly then said oh you don’t understand this is my service dog and legally we are allowed by law to be served here.  She said we have been served here before as well.  She pulled the vest out again to show the bartender.  He then more aggressively stated that no, it does not matter we are not allowed to be served here with the service dog.

He said he had just called the owners on the phone who again had told him dogs were not allowed in the restaurant even if it’s a service dog.  The bar tender said last week they had someone else in here with a dog and they were requested to leave as well.  He said it’s not himself telling her no, but the owners rules and request.

Kimberly then asked him what time it was and asked for his name.  He said it’s 6:05 p.m. and my name is Justin.  We then left and went back to her friend’s home to call the Police.  The policeman came out to the home and took Kimberly’s statement and stated also that is discrimination for customers with service dogs to not be allowed in or be served at a restaurant.

  • San Diego police officer Stadler and Lopez involved. The bartender told the police officer that I was not allowed w/ my service dog due to owners policy.

I called the restaurant to make a complaint on January 20, 2012 @ 5:35pm and spoke to manager Forrest to talk about my discomfort and being upset about what happened about the night in question. He kind of wanted to brush me off and then said the owners would call me and they never did.


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