With reason we learn from what is happening in our life whether it is good or bad.
Good happens for reason and w/ the good I believe we need to remember to be grateful and not forget how hard it took to get to those grateful moments.
I believe that bad happens because we are apart of human experience. When things happen in a negative way, it is crucial to look at what part we played and what needs to be revealed from that moment. There are some things that cannot be avoided like an accident or an illness. Even with those uncontrollable incidents there is something to learn. The more we fight reason the harder it becomes. Like my Fibromyalgia one day I had to stop fighting it and ask what purpose what needs to happen for me to make my life happen.